"Interregional" relationships

[vandy_violet]

I know the concept of people from two different areas of the country dating isn't radical, but I get the feeling that there are still some issues about it in certain areas. I guess it's not the whole regional thing in general that's really an issue at all, but a friend and I were talking about this the other night. She's from Colorado, and she dated a guy from SC, from the type of social circle in which he was frequently serving as an escort for many young debutantes. He was a great guy, but she said that his mother was terrible to her, presumably b/c she wasn't a Southerner. It wasn't really a socioeconomic thing, b/c her family is wealthy enough, she's just not a deb. Other friends from the Deep South have told me of parents trying to set their sons up with debutantes from their hometowns and such, and I was just wondering how pervasive this kind of obsession/prejudice against outsiders is, if any of you think it really exists. At Vanderbilt, a lot of the most eligible guys (especially the ones I like) are wealthy Southern guys, and it bugs me to think that if I were in a serious relationship that my boyfriend's parents would have a big problem with me b/c I'm not Southern/or a debutante. Do you think a Northern transplant can really ever fit into some of the exclusive circles of the South? I know that I might be perpetuating a bunch of stereotypes with this question, but I would be glad to stand corrected if this isn't the case...

I think i can answer that question in a way similar to what your saying.
I come from a very traditional southern family...... with that i on the other hand was born and raised in So. California.

It isn't just dating from different regions it is a true south v. any other region that isn't southern.

I from calif went to a true southern college to please many members of this family vs where iw anted to go and even there you can tell if your different or not and i felt always out fo place because i wasn't born southern or from the south. I would always get, "Oh Laura your not from the south we don't do it that way here" or "you just wouldn't understand your not from the south".

I went to Arkansas for college and they are deep in their traditions and i understand traditions being from the family i am from.

I go to family reunions and i have aunts , uncles, cousins and a grandmother who is truly southern as southern can get. My family is an old family from Tenn. My great grand dad was a state supreme court judge who ran in social circles with the Gores and my grand mother and great aunts were very traditional southern ladies who let you know it too.
I mentioned in another post that cousins and aunts who are in true southern style sororities are debs and what not and they really focus on getting married within a social cirlce and momma is the one who will make it happen

I love my aunts and cousins but wow if i lived like that i think i would drive myself nuts to live up to a degree of snobbery for a better term.

[Eirene_DGP]

Originally posted by cutiepatootie


I love my aunts and cousins but wow if i lived like that i think i would drive myself nuts to live up to a degree of snobbery for a better term.

I'd have to agree with cutiepatootie on this one. I am not sure if you really want to fit into those circles. Someone correct me if I am wrong, but it seems that some of the deep southern ideas on family are beginning change with this generation. With my fam for example, it's more my grandparents and parents that push southern tradition and everyone in my age group (20ish) could care less.