Well I definelty wish u much Luck, and I do understand your quarels. I dunno if this will help any, my sorority about a yr ago, changed it's overall set up, and decided to be considered as a social and service org. Mainly, becuase we too had almost the same problem with people only wanting to do the social end of it, but by doing both, we were able to make everyone happy, (well sort of) and we made our sisterhood stronger.
Well I hope this helps, and I wish u much luck and love in the present and the future
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DGPhoney~
